Have You Lost You?

Have you ever lost yourself in a relationship? Or maybe you lost yourself in your work? Suddenly you wake up and you don’t recognize you. You don’t know you. You have become defined by a singular or maybe two things…
Ever experience that?
I have. A few times actually.
I used to define myself by my career- “I am Laurel, and I’m a writer.”
Then I defined myself by my relationship- “I am Laurel, and I am X’s girlfriend.”
Problem is… neither of those are me!
I am a combination of several things, things that define me, give me confidence and form my existence. They are my core values.

Imagine a cake. You’ve got frosting and cake. Right?

Both are essential in order for it to feel complete.
You are a cake.
Your Core Value and your Purpose (which we will go over another day) make up the bready cake.
Your femininity, flirting, and X Appeal (which we will talk about later) are the frosting.

Combined… you are a “total package!” 

Because you’re not Just pretty, Just successful, Just a mom, Just a writer, Just anything! You are who you are at your core.

Whether you’re in a relationship or you’re single, you have got to define and own your core values in order to stay strong on who you are.

SO I want you to take a real, deep, hard, honest look at yourself.

Who you are?

What’s most important to you?

Where do you stand when it comes to priorities in life?

What do you stand for?

…Those are your Core Values- the values that you will not budge on. They are your foundation.

Some of them you may have been instilled from your upbringing, others from life experiences. They are deeply rooted and unwavering. To help you think about what your core values here are a few ideas (continue reading this post on my dating advice site ScrewingTheRules.com)


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