by ScrewingTheRules Dating Coach & Flirting Expert Laurel House
Rihanna has an amazing figure… that she loves to show it off. So much so that Tionne “T-Boz” Watkins from the girl group TLC commented, “Every time I see you, you don’t have to be naked. We became the biggest girl selling group of all time with our clothes on and that says a lot. We could go around too with booby cakes [breasts] out all day long,” and added “It’s easy to sell sex.” RiRi responded by hitting up twitter, changing her header photo to that of the TLC ladies… topless.
Thanks to online porn for starters, Miley Cyrus’ Wrecking Ball video, Equinox gyms advertisements, and even a recent Christian Dior campaign, as a society we are certainly desensitized to nudity in many ways. We are more comfortable getting raw, being vulnerable, and exposing ourselves… at least when it comes to our physical selves. But what about exposing ourselves in other ways. Should you get as raw as Rihanna? Or maybe instead we should start revealing ourselves without exposing so much skin.
Rihanna isn’t afraid to get raw. And I’m not just talking about showing off her breasts and bubble booty. I’m talking about her true self too. And that’s what we all need to do more often. Rihanna is unapologetically herself. She shows her weakness. She reveals her silly, quirky side. She gets raw and that’s what is so refreshing. It’s a concept that John Legend preaches too in his song “All of Me” when he says “Cards on the table, we’re both showing hearts. Risking it all, though it’s hard.”
So many of us walk around within a body of armor. We are too afraid that anyone will truly see us, so we hide beneath what we think we should be, what we think you want us to be, what we think is cool, and shows strength. The problem is that we are hiding ourselves. When we hide ourselves, we are being fake and superficial. And it’s exactly why so many first dates don’t lead to a 2 nd . And if you do get a 2 nd date, you probably won’t progress to the point of being in a serious relationship. Why? Because you are afraid to get raw. You are afraid to reveal your true self. Translation: you’re uninteresting, forgettable, and cookie-cutter. If you want to create a love that lasts, start getting raw on the first date. Go down before you go up- connect on a real and deep level as opposed to on the fleeting superficial level.
Afraid of getting real? Not sure about how to have that amazing first date that secures a second and sets you up for a substantive relationship? I will teach you exactly, step-by-step what to do, here…